Many people have wondered about the magic that drives the timing of love and romance. All sorts of theories have been proposed, some of them rational and some of them clearly not. In astrology, the houses that deal with relationships are the 1st and 7th houses or ascendant/descendant axis. For this reason it is also known as the relationship axis and the signs on its cusps indicate the native’s ability and desire to form partnerships, whether these are romantic or business relationships. The planets that rule the signs that are on the cusps of these houses are crucial to motivating people to start relationships. The 1st house and its ruler represent the personal motivations of the native or person who owns that natal chart. The 7th house and its ruler indicate the marriage partner. In classical astrology, the Moon always co-rules the ascendant or 1st house and describes the native’s emotional needs. Therefore, it is as important in relationships as the planets that rule the sign on the 1st house cusp. The ascendant/descendant axis and its rulers are always involved at the start of a relationship.
The 10th and 4th houses or MC/IC axis is also involved in relationships because having the ability to earn money and financially support a marriage partner and children is crucial to long term stability. The 10th house or MC rules career or business and allows the native to earn the financial resources needed to support a marriage partner. The 4th house rules the home and family and if the MC/IC axis or its rulers are activated by dynamic aspects then the relationship generally grows into a marriage. Especially effective are easy aspects to the MC/IC axis because a trine to the MC also is a sextile to the IC; a flourishing career or business provides the native with the money to turn a romantic relationship into a marriage. A square to the MC is also a square to the IC, and if a relationship starts under such difficult aspects it is not as likely to evolve into marriage. Dynamic aspects to the Nodes may also activate the relationship drive, but generally this is a minor issue unless the Nodes are conjunct the angles and so drive a strong need for new social connections.
The 5th house and its ruler signify the native’s sexual attraction or romantic feelings and the desire to procreate and have children. You don’t need to be married to have sex and children, but it is beneficial for the children if they grow up in a stable home under the nurturing guidance of both parents. The 5th house and its ruler generate intense excitement and romantic feelings and are always involved at the start of romantic relationships for at least one of the partners.
When the planets that rule the angles are moved by some dynamic method such as progression, direction or transit and thereby make aspects to natal points then the native will feel the urge for companionship. Or the reverse can also be true, with these planetary rulers of the angles being aspected by any dynamic planet. The dynamic methods most obviously useful in relationships are Secondary Progressions and Solar Arc directions, except where the angles are in signs ruled by Jupiter or Saturn. Jupiter rules the signs of Sagittarius and Pisces, and Saturn rules Capricorn and Aquarius. In the above cases the transits are just as important as progressions. I use both the classical and m odern planetary rulers of the signs since the documented data clearly show that they both work. This means that Uranus is coruler of Aquarius and Pluto is coruler of Scorpio. However, I always look at the classical rulers first since they are much more often involved than the modern rulers. Venus and Mars play no role in the beginning of a romance unless they rule an angle or the 5th house. In this case even their transits to natal planets and angles are useful in triggering relationships.
In most cases it is quite easy to see who fell first or deeper in love by looking at the number of dynamic aspects that activate the important relationship points. People who have a dozen dynamic aspects activating the relationship points all at the same time have little choice but to feel a deep need for romantic involvement. Whether the partner’s chart is activated to the same extent does not seem to matter all that much. Generally, the more enthusiastic partner powers the relationship and sweeps the other person off their feet. The above conclusions are based on the analysis of 27 relationships, some of them celebrities, others very ordinary people. What they all have in common is that they all react to exactly the same planetary influences.
Below follows a detailed analysis of the romance between Desi Arnaz and Lucille Ball. She was a B movie star who met Cuban born band leader Desi Arnaz on the set of the movie Too Many Girls in May of 1940 and they got married six months later. Lucille Ball was born on the 6th of August 1911, at 17:00 in Jamestown, New York. This gives her chart Capricorn rising with Venus ruled Libra on the 10th and Taurus on the 5th. Assertive Mars ruled Aries is on the 4th house cusp. Her father died when Lucy was four years old, and she was raised mostly by her maternal grandparents. At sixteen she was sent to acting school by her mother to keep her away from criminal friends. Her acting skills were not particularly good, and she ended up playing roles in low grade movies. One of these parts w as a role in the movie Too Many Girls.
In order to set the stage for how the romance worked out I looked at the transits for a time period of four months, starting with the month before the relationship began. That way I could see the astrological motivators before, during and after the start of the relationship. I also looked at progressions and directions for two months before and after the beginning of the romance. Let us look at the progressions first.
In the following section I will state the dynamic aspect followed by its psychological interpretation. In March Lucy had Solar Arc Mercury, which is natally in her 8th house of debt, square her Moon in the 1st. She needed money badly and felt stressed because of it. In April her progressed Moon trined Venus ruler 5th and 10th, so she was ready to accept a new 5th house love and romance as well as 10th house career and financial opportunities. By July the progressed Moon had conjoined natal Uranus in the 1st, bringing the excitement and thrill of a new relationship with the sexy and much younger Desi Arnaz. Next the progressed Moon squared the MC/IC axis, driving the need to expand her career as well as cement her relationship to Arnaz by marriage and buying a home.
In April Saturn ruler 1st was transiting her 4th and trine the Ascendant and conjunct the North Node; this set the stage for the focus on her relationship and family security needs. By May, Saturn opposed Jupiter in the 10th, indicating that maybe her relationship with Desi brought her unwanted notoriety at work. She really worried about the age difference. Saturn also trined the Moon ruler 7th; she was obviously happy to have found a lover who met her emotional needs. Transiting Jupiter was conjunct the 4th house cusp and trine the Ascendant, again repeating the need for home and marriage.
In June, transiting Saturn trined Mercury, indicating her finances were much better now. Transiting Uranus coruler 2nd trined Venus, repeating the theme of greatly improved finances and also highlighting the sexual intensity of her new found romance. Transiting Jupiter trined Moon ruler 7th, bringing thoughts of marriage to her mind. Transiting Saturn squared natal Sun, indicating Lucy`s fear of social disapproval of her relationship with a man who was six years younger. They eventually agreed to lie about their age and both claimed to be born in 1914. Saturn then conjoined Mars ruler 4th in the 4th, driving the need for marriage and a common family home.
Desiderio Arnaz was born on the 2nd of March 1917 at 12:17 PM, in Santiago de Cuba on the island of Cuba. This gives him 23 Gemini rising, Pisces on the 10th and Libra on the 5th house of romance. His family fled to the USA because of political troubles, and Desi was raised in Miami. In April 1940 he had Solar Arc Mars ruler 6th of work and 11th of business income, which is natally conjunct the MC, square the natal Moon. This activated his career and work ambition as well as his sex drive. In May the progressed Moon sextiled Mars, sextiled the Sun and sextiled the MC. His career and finances were doing fabulously well and he could well afford to think about relationships.
In April transiting Jupiter ruler 7th and 10th sextiled Mercury ruler 1st, sextiled Uranus, sextiled Ascendant, squared Saturn. The need to start a relationship must have taken over his whole life. He was in love with love but had serious intentions with Saturn involved. Transiting Saturn squared Neptune coruler 10th, conjoined Jupiter and sextiled the Moon. With Neptune involvement he just had to find his goddess and his feelings were over the top. Also in May Uranus squared Mercury ruler 1st, and the need for the wild excitement of a new love was definitely on his mind.
In May transiting Neptune squared the ascendant, indicating the likelihood of falling helplessly in love and idealizing his partner to the utmost. Transiting Jupiter sextiled Venus ruler 5th, sextiled Pluto, squared Neptune, conjoined natal Jupiter. The need to expand his social and professional relationships as well as his romantic life was on his mind when he met Lucy.
In June transiting Jupiter sextiled the Moon in his 1st and transiting Saturn sextiled the Sun in his 10th and sextiled the MC. Desi’s career and relationship were doing incredibly well and his romance with Lucy was seen in a positive light by the movie producers. In July transiting Neptune squared the ascendant/descendant axis. The time had come to take this romance to the next level and move forward with a commitment. Transiting Jupiter sextiled Mars, Sun, and the MC. The movie really boosted his career and allowed him to consider a permanent arrangement like marriage. Transiting Pluto coruler 6th of work conjoined Neptune. The fame and fortune he had hungered for were falling in his lap. Desi and Lucy were married on the 30th of November 1940. The marriage failed all too soon due to his constant extramarital affairs. He simply could not turn down an offer of sex from a woman.
The rules for predicting romance in a chart are simple and predictable and appear to work all of the time. One needs to see the rulers of some or all four of the angles activated, either by being aspected by dynamic planets or these rulers of angles themselves moving through the chart and activating other planets. It doesn’t seem to matter in which direction the energy flows, as long as it relates to the angles. Throw in the Moon as the indicator of the native’s emotional needs and the ruler of the 5th for romance and excitement and the picture is mostly complete.